You want to know something disgusting? In Idaho you can get a divorce in ten days. TEN DAYS. What?! I don’t know about you, but I have definitely been super mad at someone for a couple weeks and then gotten over it. Can you imagine – you’re in a happy marriage but you have a HUGE fight. So in a rash decision you file for a divorce. After a couple weeks you’ve resolved things and are over it… but it’s too late. Your divorce has gone through and you are single once again. Fail.
Fact: After 2 years, 70% of divorced people believed they made a mistake in getting a divorce. This correlates with the statistic that in 2 years, 70% of divorced men had remarried. When they get remarried, they have the idea that this marriage will be so much better than the last. But quickly they discover that all marriages have challenges. This is when they realize that they made a mistake in getting the divorce.
The effects of divorce are expensive, heart wrenching, and long lasting. Right off the bat you have to pay to get divorced. In California you can expect to drop $125,000 to make the process happen. Then within the next 5 years you’ll spend an extra $100,000 in addition to having to pay for twice as many households as you used to. 62% of divorced women and their children are living in poverty. This isn’t necessarily because the ex-husband is a horrible person, but because he now has to pay for SO much more than he used to.
Then there’s the impact of divorce on children. Divorce increases the likelihood of the children being involved in drugs, alcohol, illegal activity, crimes, jail time, and teen pregnancy. They have poorer grades and are less likely to go to college. They are also less confident in their ability to have successful relationships (regardless of the child’s age when divorce happened).
Now for the long reaching effects. The impacts of divorce literally last for generations (as in multiple generations). Each generation is more likely to divorce because that is what they have seen their parents do; they have never learned anything different; and they lack confidence in their ability to have successful relationships. As divorce happens, family systems get more complicated and the stress on them escalates. Families become pitted against each other and these kind of feelings are not easily nor rapidly repaired.
How sad is all of this? But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Fact: After 5 years, the majority of couples who stuck it out and didn’t divorce reported being satisfied or very satisfied with their marriage.
If something is broken, fix it. Love, serve, and sacrifice.
Fact: After 2 years, 70% of divorced people believed they made a mistake in getting a divorce. This correlates with the statistic that in 2 years, 70% of divorced men had remarried. When they get remarried, they have the idea that this marriage will be so much better than the last. But quickly they discover that all marriages have challenges. This is when they realize that they made a mistake in getting the divorce.
The effects of divorce are expensive, heart wrenching, and long lasting. Right off the bat you have to pay to get divorced. In California you can expect to drop $125,000 to make the process happen. Then within the next 5 years you’ll spend an extra $100,000 in addition to having to pay for twice as many households as you used to. 62% of divorced women and their children are living in poverty. This isn’t necessarily because the ex-husband is a horrible person, but because he now has to pay for SO much more than he used to.
Then there’s the impact of divorce on children. Divorce increases the likelihood of the children being involved in drugs, alcohol, illegal activity, crimes, jail time, and teen pregnancy. They have poorer grades and are less likely to go to college. They are also less confident in their ability to have successful relationships (regardless of the child’s age when divorce happened).
Now for the long reaching effects. The impacts of divorce literally last for generations (as in multiple generations). Each generation is more likely to divorce because that is what they have seen their parents do; they have never learned anything different; and they lack confidence in their ability to have successful relationships. As divorce happens, family systems get more complicated and the stress on them escalates. Families become pitted against each other and these kind of feelings are not easily nor rapidly repaired.
How sad is all of this? But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Fact: After 5 years, the majority of couples who stuck it out and didn’t divorce reported being satisfied or very satisfied with their marriage.
If something is broken, fix it. Love, serve, and sacrifice.