Leading Expert Advice
“Asking your child to teach you something doesn’t diminish your importance as a teacher; it shows that you are willing to learn as well as instruct. Soliciting your child’s opinion about a decision the two of you are discussing doesn’t mean that his view will carry the day; it demonstrates that you are open to being influenced by what he thinks. Asking your child what she thinks about something she’s read, heard, or seen doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the ability to shape her views; it shows that you are interested in what she has to say” (Steinberg, p. 185-186).
Gospel Principle
“Nothing is more important to the relationship between family members than open, honest communication. This is particularly true for parents trying to teach gospel principles and standards to their children. The ability to counsel with our youth—and perhaps more importantly, to really listen to their concerns—is the foundation upon which successful relationships are built. Often what we see in the eyes and what we feel in the heart will communicate far more than what we hear or say” (Ballard, Like a Flame Unquenchable).
Connecting the Dots
No one likes being talked at or talked down to. Why then do we assume that children are any different? I think nothing shows children respect or their own importance better than involving them in decisions and soliciting their opinions. It shows them that they are valued and their thoughts have worth. It helps build a trusting relationship between parents and children. It shows and teaches humility and the ability to express thoughts and feelings. Communication goes a long way for establishing strong families. How much better off would children be if they developed this skill while they are young? And how much happier could your family be now if children are allowed and invited to express themselves?
“Asking your child to teach you something doesn’t diminish your importance as a teacher; it shows that you are willing to learn as well as instruct. Soliciting your child’s opinion about a decision the two of you are discussing doesn’t mean that his view will carry the day; it demonstrates that you are open to being influenced by what he thinks. Asking your child what she thinks about something she’s read, heard, or seen doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the ability to shape her views; it shows that you are interested in what she has to say” (Steinberg, p. 185-186).
Gospel Principle
“Nothing is more important to the relationship between family members than open, honest communication. This is particularly true for parents trying to teach gospel principles and standards to their children. The ability to counsel with our youth—and perhaps more importantly, to really listen to their concerns—is the foundation upon which successful relationships are built. Often what we see in the eyes and what we feel in the heart will communicate far more than what we hear or say” (Ballard, Like a Flame Unquenchable).
Connecting the Dots
No one likes being talked at or talked down to. Why then do we assume that children are any different? I think nothing shows children respect or their own importance better than involving them in decisions and soliciting their opinions. It shows them that they are valued and their thoughts have worth. It helps build a trusting relationship between parents and children. It shows and teaches humility and the ability to express thoughts and feelings. Communication goes a long way for establishing strong families. How much better off would children be if they developed this skill while they are young? And how much happier could your family be now if children are allowed and invited to express themselves?